Are there any giveaway signs that someone is keener on one particular love language than the others? How can they recognize what their partner’s love language is?

A persons love language is simply the way they communicate love to a person. It can vary from person to person. To work out what love language your partner uses you need to spend some time observing their behaviors. If they often verbally tell you they love you then their love language is likely words of affirmation. If they regularly say things like I fixed that thing for you then their love language is likely to be acts of service.

If you’re really not sure what your partners love language is get them to take a test online. There are lots of great free ones out there and they only take a few minutes to complete. It can be a fun activity to do together one night. 

In what ways can the five love languages framework positively benefit someone and their relationship?

By understanding both yours and your partners love language you can begin to have a better relationship, full of more compassion and understanding. It helps you to understand their behaviors and why they do the things they do. By knowing your partners love language you’re better quipped to give them the sort of love they require.

What are the drawbacks of using the five love languages framework?

I wouldn’t say there are any drawbacks to using the 5 love languages unless of course you take it to the extreme. Just because your partner shows a preference towards one particular love language doesn’t mean they don’t like to also experience the other love languages. A person may have one or two different love languages so try to incorporate both.

For each love language: Can you offer a few tips on how to practice it to show love in a romantic relationship?

Acts Of Service: Offer to help your partner with a project or task they’ve been putting off. Do jobs or housework chores for them without having to be told. The really appreciate when you do things for them without having to be told.

Word of Affirmation: Make sure you take the time to tell your partner how much you love and appreciate them. People that respond to words of affirmation need to hear how much you love them.

Receiving Gifts: When you’re out and about find something that you partner might appreciate. It doesn’t have to be anything expensive just a little gift. For people that respond to receiving gifts it’s not necessarily about the gift itself it’s about the time and effort you put into getting them a little gift. This love language is not about consumerism but thought.

Quality Time: Regularly schedule time for you and your partner to just be together. You don’t have to do anything just be together. Have a nice meal together or sit together and read books whilst cuddling. Conversations are important to people that respond to quality time. Make time to listen to what your partner has to say.

Physical Touch: A person that responds to physical touch loves cuddles and close contact. Hold their hand when your out and make an effort to touch them. It doesn’t have to be in a sexual way, it can be something as simple as a stroke on their arm.

If you want your partner to experience and recognize love you need to talk to them intheir own love language.

What should you do if you and your partner have different love languages?

If you and your partner have different love languages that’s not a problem. You just have to be mindful of each others languages. Make an effort to research their love language and give them what they need. 

Can people apply the love languages to non-romantic relationships? If so, how?

Absolutely, love languages work regardless of the type of relationship you have with a person

Anastasia Filipenko

Anastasia Filipenko is a health and wellness psychologist, dermatolist and a freelance writer. She frequently covers beauty and skincare, food trends and nutrition, health and fitness and relationships. When she's not trying out new skincare products, you'll find her taking a cycling class, doing yoga, reading in the park, or trying a new recipe.

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