Blue's Duncan James Talks The 'Bi Now, Gay Later' Myth

There seems to be at least one guy who fancies other guys in every boy band – it would almost seem a requirement. From the outing of Lance Bass, former member of US boyband ‘N Sync, to Mark Feehily of Westlife’s own coming out, there have been many pop singers who identify as exclusively attracted to men. Recently, Duncan James of the R&B Brit Award-winning group Blue, spoke to gay times about his bisexuality, which he first discussed with News of the World in an interview in 2009.

While some gay men like to repeat the pun ‘bi now, gay later’ when encountering bisexual men, a saying that implies that bisexuality is only a stop on the road to exclusive same-sex attraction, many bisexual men find themselves leaning more towards sexual and romantic relationships with women over time. This is not the case for James, though, who suggests that there may be some truth in the saying, as he has dated fewer and fewer women over the years.

Dating isn’t always easy for bisexuals, as partners who are exclusively attracted to the same sex might feel that they have double the competition for sexual attention or might feel resentful that their lovers are able to move between worlds of socially accepted sexual norms and the more embattled world of being gay. On the other hand, opposite sex partners also might struggle with a lover’s attraction to the same sex.

On the topic of bisexuality, it is interesting to consider the claims of a recent study conducted in Canada. The study polled men and women from the US who identify as bisexual, and found that more men said that they would be jealous of a female lover’s infidelity than a male lover’s infidelity.

Despite the fact that the study only involved 134 participants, perhaps some link to the ‘Bi now, Gay Later’ claim might be drawn – maybe men like James, who find themselves dating other men more than women over time, enjoy a relative sense of security in the absence of stronger sexual jealousy? This would be a big assumption, though. The truth is that there are many factors, most likely biological as well as social, which influence human sexuality, making it difficult to make any simple generalizations.

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Psychologist, Freelance writer and Commercial Adviser at shopgiejo.com

Anastasia Filipenko is a health and wellness psychologist, dermatolist and a freelance writer. She frequently covers beauty and skincare, food trends and nutrition, health and fitness and relationships. When she's not trying out new skincare products, you'll find her taking a cycling class, doing yoga, reading in the park, or trying a new recipe.

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