What is the top body language sign someone is in the mood? Why?

Heavy breathing

 It happens because the body is excited, making the heart rate increase. Being turned on implies the body has an urgent demand for more oxygen as it prepares for an orgasm before calming down. It is a body language that may not be faked.

What might someone do with their eyes if they’re feeling flirty? Why?


If you notice someone winking a lot at you, it may signal that something is cooking. They are probably thinking about you, sexually, and it is a clue that you can take things further.

How might someone touch someone else if they’re in the mood/want to have sex? Why?

Rubbing their shoulder

Physical touch can show that someone wants you intimately. It may happen in the name of an accident, but most times it symbolizes the desire for something more intimate, which signals sexual attraction.

 How might someone position their body if they want to have sex? Why?

Leaning in

Leaning in may happen to two people may be when holding conversation or taking pictures. It is a sign of sexual attraction that could mean a desire to increase attention or intimacy; factors that show great sexual attraction.

Barbara Santini

Barbara is a freelance writer and a sex and relationships adviser at Dimepiece LA and Peaches and Screams. Barbara is involved in various educational initiatives aimed at making sex advice more accessible to everyone and breaking stigmas around sex across various cultural communities. In her spare time, Barbara enjoys trawling through vintage markets in Brick Lane, exploring new places, painting and reading.

MS, University of Tartu
Sleep specialist

Using the acquired academic and professional experience, I advise patients with various complaints about mental health - depressed mood, nervousness, lack of energy and interest, sleep disorders, panic attacks, obsessive thoughts and anxieties, difficulty concentrating, and stress. In my free time, I love to paint and go on long walks on the beach. One of my latest obsessions is sudoku – a wonderful activity to calm an unease mind.

Anastasia Filipenko is a health and wellness psychologist, dermatolist and a freelance writer. She frequently covers beauty and skincare, food trends and nutrition, health and fitness and relationships. When she's not trying out new skincare products, you'll find her taking a cycling class, doing yoga, reading in the park, or trying a new recipe.

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