Cunnilingus And How to Be a Better Giver

After penetrative sex, we have cunnilingus and analingus. The former refers to licking, sucking, nibbling, and bitting the “bean” of the vulva-having person while the latter is performing oral sex around your partner’s anus. Although the two are not penetrative sex techniques, they can provide toe-curling orgasms when done correctly.

How to go about it (Cunnilingus)

Warm up

Start with kissing (neck and lips). You may also want to caress your partner’s nipples, inner thigh, and lower stomach. This keeps them primed for the big-O.

Get into Position

If you are both beginners, start with missionary oral. Do not forget to place a pillow beneath your partner’s hips for comfort and easy access to their genitals. If you have done it more than a few times, why not try the 69 sex position?

Get their Clothes Off (Optional)

While some enjoy direct clitoral stimulation, others find it overwhelming. If your partner falls in the latter category, it means their clit is super sensitive. For this reason, you may want to pleasure them with their clothes on.

Throw some Compliments

So, you have the barrier(underwear) out of your way and can see the prize. Because not everyone loves their “girl”, you may want to praise or appreciate your partner’s body to up their confidence levels.

Show Your Tongue Game

Once you lower yourself onto their vulva, do not stick to the same rhythm, position, or motion. Start slow and gentle. From there, switch up things to give your partner a total meltdown. Unsure of the techniques to use? I got you. Try;

Side to side
Up and down
Clockwise circles
Counterclockwise circles

Because it is oral sex, you may be tempted to get the lube off the table. As a qualified sex therapist, I strongly recommendbringing a bottle of safe lube with you. This a surefire way of getting things right whether you are giving oral sex for the first or hundredth time.