Are getting overwhelmed by dating anxiety? Well, I have a few points on how to deal with it better, including;


Researchers suggest that being open can reduce anxiety and promote social connection. Self-disclosure can help an individual build understanding, trust, and connection, especially when they are open to sharing more about themselves. It is best if you gradually share your information with a trusted friend.

Self-love comes first

If dating is causing you headache, I recommend giving it a break and shift to practicing self-love. Perhaps one bad relationship in the past made you develop a hating for men, leaving you with an intention of dating to revenge. In this case, you should learn to forgive and accept that yes, it happened, but in the past. I also tell my clients to be fair to themselves by being kind. This way, they can get peace of mind, which can help alleviate anxiety.

Understand that dating is not a must

Most people, especially the non-binary category may feel pressured by the society in matters dating and marriage. Well, the decision is with you. I recommend taking time to focus on yourself and your goals rather than this whole dating thing because the pressure is not worth the struggle.

Ieva Kubiliute

Ieva Kubiliute is a psychologist and a sex and relationships advisor and a freelance writer. She's also a consultant to several health and wellness brands. While Ieva specialises in covering wellness topics ranging from fitness and nutrition, to mental wellbeing, sex and relationships and health conditions, she has written across a diverse range of lifestyle topics, including beauty and travel. Career highlights so far include: luxury spa-hopping in Spain and joining an £18k-a-year London gym. Someone’s got to do it! When she’s not typing away at her desk—or interviewing experts and case studies, Ieva winds down with yoga, a good movie and great skincare (affordable of course, there’s little she doesn’t know about budget beauty). Things that bring her endless joy: digital detoxes, oat milk lattes and long country walks (and sometimes jogs).

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