Exploring The World Of Femdom

Exploring The World Of Femdom

In today’s Western world, men are relatively free to express and explore their sexuality as they please. Ideas pertaining to the “proper” role of men have become outmoded, and this of course extends to the bedroom. Many men enjoy a bit of “girl on top” and, in fact, the cowboy position was rated the American Man’s favourite sex position of all time. Others go further and give their lovers complete control as they lay back handcuffed to the bedpost and enjoy strap-on experimentation and light bondage play. Female domination or “femdom” however, extends far beyond these fairly tame borders and is all about girl on top all the time.

Femdom sees the woman in a traditional relationship not simply being given control by her partner, but taking it from him and reinforcing her dominance over her submissive through whatever means please her best. This of course, necessitates a willing submissive, who often finds the ultimate thrill and sexual delight in their submission to the caprice of a dominatrix. Blackmail fantasies in which a male is “obliged” to submit to the wiles of a dominant female feature prominently, but roleplaying and role-reversal are but the tip of the iceberg.

Strap-ons, leather and latex, riding crops and stern bondage are par for the course, making femdom an offshoot of the BDSM scene where it’s commonplace to hear things like “whips and chains excite me”. However, the sheer variety of femdom practices to be found means that the only defining factor is female domination. Foot worship, orgasm denial, cuckolding…the list goes on, with many of these femdom-inspired practices being individual fetish practices themselves. They all however, see one party submitting utterly to the whims of a dominant woman; a self-styled goddess whose word is law.

As with much of the BDSM scene, many femdom enthusiasts choose to live their fetish 24/7, practicing the mistress/slave roles as a lifestyle rather than a mere occasional indulgence. For many women, the role-reversal, control and freedom to enact their most wicked fantasies is fantastically arousing, whilst for the submissive, the woman-worship and “forced” complicity is a surrender they’re only too willing to make. Between consensual partners, this kind of relationship can hold its own world of deviant delights.

Anastasia Filipenko is a health and wellness psychologist, dermatolist and a freelance writer. She frequently covers beauty and skincare, food trends and nutrition, health and fitness and relationships. When she's not trying out new skincare products, you'll find her taking a cycling class, doing yoga, reading in the park, or trying a new recipe.

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