Falling Asleep after Sex, It's Natural!

Falling Asleep after Sex, It’s Natural!

Some women (and men!) feel rather aggrieved when their partner turns over and begins to snore shortly after sex. The wakeful party can feel like they are being abandoned just as the afterglow is starting, or that their partner has a very ‘wham, bam, thank you mam’ sort of attitude towards their love making. But this simply isn’t true…well, when it comes to sleepy blokes anyway!

Recent studies have highlighted the fact that biology could be to blame for why many men feel overcome by the urge to sleep shortly after they reach the big o. I will try to convey the study’s findings as simply as possible….

Basically the study by Dr Serge Stoleru found that after orgasm men experience a decrease in activity in the prefrontal cortex which is the region of the brain responsible for regulating behaviour… basically it gathers information taken in by the body’s senses and decides on the most appropriate action. Following on from this drop in activity in the prefrontal cortex, two further areas of the brain (the cingulate cortex and the amygdala) supress any further sexual feelings and his body is flooded with oxytocin and serotonin resulting in a powerful urge to sleep. Make sense?

Personally I cannot complain about this phenomenon as I am just as likely to pull the duvet up to my ears, snuggle in and fall sound asleep post coitus as my fiancé is. I find the afterglow of a damn good session to be extremely relaxing, and as we tend to do the mattress dance late at night it is only natural that we feel a little worn out and fall into a peaceful deep sleep. In fact, whenever my fiancé experiences a bout of insomnia I always make sure that he gets sex (or at the very least a blow job!) before we turn off the light. Nine times out of ten this works a treat and the herbal sleeping tablets are no-longer required.

I pretty much take it as a compliment when my man goes all bleary eyed and dopey after some loving as it shows me that I’ve done my job properly. I tend to magnify the blissful and relaxing qualities of a good orgasm by kissing my fiancé gently after our session is over and tucking him in…I’ve even been known to get out of bed and make us cups of tea! I know that’s terribly English but tea seems to taste even better when you’ve worked for it!

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MS, University of Tartu
Sleep specialist

Using the acquired academic and professional experience, I advise patients with various complaints about mental health - depressed mood, nervousness, lack of energy and interest, sleep disorders, panic attacks, obsessive thoughts and anxieties, difficulty concentrating, and stress. In my free time, I love to paint and go on long walks on the beach. One of my latest obsessions is sudoku – a wonderful activity to calm an unease mind.

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