Although most people misinterpret fear of intimacy as coldness, indifference, or coldness, as a relationship expert, I can say it is a defense mechanism. Most people who fear intimacy have terrible past experiences, which they will try as much as possible to avoid in the future.
How It Manifests in Relationships
Fear of intimacy mainly manifests as aggression or seclusion in the relationships.
Signs To Recognize It
Undeniable signs of fear of intimacy include;
Perfectionism
Fear of intimacy often comes with a feeling that a partner is unworthy. This makes them want to be “perfect” to win the love and support of the other person.
Dating Multiple People
Fear of intimacy breeds a serial dater. Also known as a butterfly, a serial dater has a commitment phobia that makes them date multiple people.
Finding It Hard to Folk Out Your Needs and Wishes
Since fear of intimacy makes a partner feel they don’t deserve the other person’s support, they are less likely to tell out their needs and wishes. We, humans, were not blessed with the power of reading minds. For this reason, these needs and wishes are more likely to go unfulfilled, confirming the feelings of a partner that they are they do not matter.
How To Overcome It
I highly recommend professional guidance if the fear of intimacy stems from troubling past experiences. A serious therapist will help you accept and acknowledge the past experiences affecting you. Once you are good to go, they will help you create vital steps to root out the fear forever.
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