How to Delay Ejaculation

How to Delay Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is man’s greatest sexual enemy, known to cause self-esteem issues and even depression. However, there are ways that you can train yourself to last a bit longer. Even though it may be slow progress, it is way better than nothing. Getting your stamina is something that is bound to get you smiling and being more engaging in the bedroom. Some of the simple techniques include;

Kegel Exercises

Mostly associated with women, kegel exercises are very beneficial to the men too. The exercise helps to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles thereby helping you control ejaculation. The exercise involves squeezing and releasing the pelvic floor muscles over and over again. This discreet exercise can be done in most places without anyone knowing it is happening.

Stop Start Technique

Considered the most frustrating way to gain control over your ejaculation, this is a form of play that can be practiced solo or with a partner. This involves stopping just as you are about to ejaculate, then starting up again after a break of up to a minute and then starting up again. You repeat this 4 to 5 times before letting yourself ejaculate. This is very frustrating especially for couples play but it ensures that the session lasts long and other forms of stimulation can be employed during the short breaks.

Take Deep Breaths

Anxiety is sometimes the root cause of the premature ejaculation as the shallow breaths increases the heart rate and next thing you know you are already done. To reduce the anxiety, take a deep breath and releasing slowly. Let the inhalation and exhalation cycle last 5 seconds each and this will have your heart regulated in no time. This meditation and relaxation technique will prove very helpful for your anxiety related shortcomings.

Position Change

It is a well known fact that some positions are better than others, providing powerful sensations that result in a quick release. By identifying your trigger positions, you get to understand which ones to avoid until you feel like ample time has passed and you can now indulge your orgasm. Doggy style and missionary are the most powerful positions and the greatest culprits of early release. Always ensure that you start with the styles that exert less pressure on the glans like your partner being on top.

Benzocaine Condoms

Benzocaine is known as a mild anesthetic and is commonly used as a painkiller. Some condoms have benzocaine in the tip of the condom, reducing the sensitivity of your penis at the tip. With the rest of the penis very sensitive, you get to enjoy your session for a while before finally achieving your orgasmic bliss. The condoms are designed to only affect you, so you don’t have to be worried about your partner. On the other hand, thick condoms can also help you achieve longer sessions as the sensations are less powerful that those of feather light condoms.

Squeeze Technique

This is a simple technique that may also prove to be a bit frustrating to your partner. As you are about to ejaculate, squeeze between the glans and the shaft. This will put a stop to your ejaculation, but it will take away your erection as well. As you wait to get hard again, take the time to explore other stimulations. Repeat this as much as you like until you feel like you are ready for the grand finale.

Delay Creams and Sprays

These are available in various formulas, but they all have one thing in common; they contain ingredients designed to delay ejaculation. With some delaying for up to 20 minutes, these creams and sprays are designed for quick absorption. This ensures that you can indulge almost immediately after application. For those who have no qualms about using creams and sprays, this is definitely the option for you.

Delaying ejaculation may also be done as a control measure and not necessarily to rectify a shortcoming. Whatever your reasons may be, try a few of these methods to discover which one works best for you. Whether it is through solo play or a session with your partner, make sure that you do your very best to make it past your normal time frame.

Monika Wassermann is a doctor and a freelance writer based in the UK who lives with her cat Buddy. She writes across several verticals, including life, health, sex and love, relationships and fitness. Her three great loves are Victorian novels, Lebanese cuisine, and vintage markets. When she’s not writing, you can find her trying to meditate more, weightlifting, or wandering around in town.

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