How to Squirt During Sex - Squirting and Female Ejaculation

How to Squirt During Sex – Squirting and Female Ejaculation

From less than trustworthy sites to more well-known medical sites, you can find information about female ejaculation. The problem is, most of it is contradictory. Is it real? Do real women gush or squirt? Is it faked in movies? Can anyone learn to do it?

What, exactly, is the fluid that is ejaculated? Unfortunately, the answers to all those questions depend upon whom you are asking. Women who have had the experience will say that it absolutely is real and that real women do ejaculate. The scientific community is still debating.

Ancient texts from throughout the world mentioned female ejaculation. From India to Rome and Greece, copious discharge by women during sex was not considered deviant or even particularly unusual. In more modern times there has been debate as to whether or not such an occurrence is even possible. Feminists, scientists and even women have differing opinions about whether female ejaculation is possible or whether women who report it happening are simply experiencing urinary incontinence during sex.

Part of the confusion is a result of the fact that only some women experience a discharge just before or during orgasm, and women who do ejaculate report the experience is not at all consistent. Sometimes there is more fluid, sometimes less and sometimes none at all. Another cause of confusion is that the fluid is ejected from the urethra and not from the vagina, causing some to believe the fluid is urine. However, scientists have analyzed the female ejaculate and found that the chemical make-up is different than urine.

People who think that the ejaculate is simply urine cite the fact that there is not really anywhere in the female anatomy that large amounts of fluid could be stored, other than the bladder. Besides the aforementioned analysis of the fluid, women who have experienced ejaculation contend that it does not smell, feel or behave like urine.

Feminists argue that men want to believe that women ejaculate in order to view them as mirror images of men, and yet other feminists argue that the fact of female ejaculation has been ignored for hundreds of years to suppress the fact that women experience sexual pleasure. The scientific arguments are just as tortured and complex.

In order to determine if female ejaculation is fact or fiction it seems most helpful to turn to the women who report having had the experience. It is not difficult to find first hand reports; there are even instructions on how to make it happen. In all cases the women report more vaginal than clitoral stimulation. The fabled G spot is mentioned frequently. In some texts the terms G spot and female prostate are used interchangeably.

Those with a more scientific bent may want to refer to a diagram showing the female prostate. Stimulation of the tissue surrounding the prostate and urethra appear to be essential to female ejaculation. A study by Italian scientist Emmanuele Janinni showed some evidence that Skene’s Glands may explain why some women experience ejaculation and others do not. The glands vary in size from woman to woman and some women do not have the openings at all.

Taking into account the fact that female ejaculation has been recorded for hundreds of years and that women have and still do report the experience, it is fair to say that female ejaculation is fact and not fiction. When it is referred to as “gushing” or “squirting,” as it often is in fetish literature, it does perhaps seem more fictional. The women who regularly ejaculate, however, will contend that it is most certainly not fiction.

Many women who have reported the experience say that it did not happen the first time they had sex or even the first time they reached orgasm, nor do they ejaculate every time after the initial experience. Instead, there seems to be at least some mystery to it for many women. Others claim to have found a sort formula and to have “trained” their bodies to ejaculate every time.

Reports about the amount of fluid discharged vary widely. Some say as much as 1/4 cup squirts out, while others say it is a much smaller amount. Some people even think that female ejaculation is far more common than most people believe – it’s just such a small amount of fluid that most couples don’t notice. The terms gush and squirt may also be misleading as the fluid may also trickle or even drip out.

While female ejaculation is often the subject of erotica and fetish-style material, some couples do not enjoy the experience in the least. If it happens unexpectedly, it may be an unpleasant surprise. Women who commonly ejaculate also report feeling a strong urge to urinate, which can be very uncomfortable during intercourse. There are ways to “encourage” your body to ejaculate, so to speak, but be forewarned: it does not always work and it may not feel the way you expect it to.

If you are looking for toys that may be able to help you achieve your first squirt take a look at either the Passion Flower G or the Hitachi Magic Wand with the g-spot focused attachments (which doubles as a great back massager).

Finally, if you’ve never had chance to see an actual squirt, there are plenty of videos available. I would recommend something like Real Female Orgasms 11 which is a hard core movie but has lots of squirting scenes so you can see some of the different reactions, quantities, etc.

Tatyana Dyachenko

For the past years, Tatyana has worked as a sex blogger and a relationship advisor. She has been featured in magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Teen Vogue. Vice, Tatler, Vanity Fair, and many others. Since 2016, Tatyana has focused on sexology, attended various training courses, participated in international conferences and congresses. “I wish people would address sexual issues in a timely manner! Forget shyness, prejudice and feel free to see a sex doctor for help or advice!” Tanya enjoys pursuing her flare for creativity through modelling, graffiti art, astronomy, and technology.

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