Dear Martina
I’m so bored that I find myself fantasizing about an affair. I do love my husband but we no longer have that spark and I’d love to fall in love or lust again. There are a few blokes I’ve been flirting with and I think I could take it further if I wanted to. I am also subscribed to a dating site – my husband just thinks I play bingo online. I can really see myself growing old with my husband as we are the best of friends he just doesn’t turn me on anymore and I want to enjoy the sexually active years I have left.
Dear Lustful Loser
Is this just a fantasy or would you really like to throw everything away for a fling? If you’re serious about having an affair I must offer you some damage limitation advice that may help you keep your marriage intact and have the sex life you want. Basically advice to help you have it all.
1) Confess. Tell your hubby how you feel. You’ve nothing to lose. He may even suggest ways to spice things up. He may be unhappy too and has just been scared to broach the subject.
2) Invite. Have you thought about swinging? If you and your hubby are the best of friends it could be the ideal solution. You get to keep the friendship while satisfying those carnal desires.
3) Explore. Have you really tried everything to spice up your sex life? Have you tried bondage, dogging, porn? Don’t go for the affair until you’ve tried them all.
4) Whore. Maybe your husband needs a little prompting to bring out his wild side. How about showing him what you’d like to do to this fantasy lover. Use your imagination, have a bit of role play, pretend he’s the one you’re having an affair with. You can even go the whole hog and book into a hotel.
5) Door. If none of the above work and you don’t get your partners blessing (or erection) you’re going to have to leave if you want more. It’s a choice you must take. If you still respect him it’s not fair to make him a laughing stock and to betray his trust. Who knows, maybe it’ll be the kick up the bum he needs to start pleasuring you all over again or maybe he’ll find someone else? How would you feel then?
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