Written By: Jodie Milton, Women’s Coach
We all know the importance of having a morning routine.
But what about harnessing the power of morning rituals for your relationship?
Getting complacent or taking your partner for granted can be an easy trap to fall into. It takes conscious action to keep the passion between you thriving.
So here are 5 simple morning rituals you can use to really nourish your relationship. Try one of these for the next 7 days and watch your love life flourish.
1. Eye Gazing
This is one of the most simple yet powerful practices to create more connections with your partner. And it literally takes only 2 minutes.
– Sit, lay or stand facing your partner.
– Look directly into each other’s eyes. Soften your gaze, and focus on relaxing your body and opening your heart and soul to one another.
– Stay with each other for a few minutes like this. Play with ‘feeling into’ each other energetically, and allowing yourself to be ‘felt’.
– Finish by sharing how you found the experience, and what thoughts and feelings came up for you.
*This can be a challenging practice, and it’s quite common to feel overwhelmed or exposed. Give it time, and trust that you will gradually feel more comfortable being vulnerable and intimate with your partner in this way. It can also open you up to more eye contact during sex, which will deepen intimacy and connection in the bedroom, too.
2. The Morning Prayer
This is one of my favorite Tantric rituals. It’s simple, powerful, and deeply healing. My partner and I love to use this when we want to connect sexually but aren’t quite in the mood yet. More often than not, it helps us to tune in, relax and gently stoke the fire for further sexual play. But it also makes a beautiful stand-alone practice as an intimate morning ritual.
– Lay comfortably facing each other.
– Start by doing some eye gazing.
– Once your breath feels steady, deep, and relaxed, move to place your hands on each other’s body. (Check in with each other first by asking, “Can I touch you?”). Place one hand on your partner’s genitals and one hand on your own heart center, and vice-versa. If that’s too intense, just try placing your hands on each other’s heart center.
– Without moving or ‘doing’ anything, come back to your breath and focus on relaxing and opening your body and heart. Keep breathing and feeling into each other, fostering a sense of union and connection. You can even play with directing energy to various parts of your own or your partner’s body or breathing energy in a loop between you.
– Do this for 2-3 minutes, or as long as it feels good. Finish by sharing how you found the experience, and what thoughts and feelings came up for you.
3. Making out
It sounds obvious, but spending time kissing can really boost your relationship satisfaction.
To get the most out of a kiss though, you need to hold it for at least 6 seconds. This creates an oxytocin response– the neurochemical that encourages bonding and feelings of love. (For even more of a relationship boost, open your mouth and/or include some tongue.)
Spend time making out when you first wake up and you’ll start your day on an oxytocin high which will really bring you and your partner much closer together.
***Worried that morning breath’s an issue? I use to worry about this one too. Best thing to do is talk about it openly. Most of the time morning breath is not the big thing we make it out to be. Otherwise, some mints left on your bedside table will do the trick.
This is a solo practice, but it’s really powerful for cultivating deep feelings of love, gratitude, and appreciation. The more we focus on these feelings in our relationship, the harder it is for toxic things like resentment, expectation, or apathy to creep in.
Write a list of 3 -5 things that you’re grateful for or that you really appreciate in your partner. Be sure to include the little things, such as the way he sings when he’s happy, as well as the big things, such as the way she loves you even when you’re feeling completely unworthy.
To go deeper, include a ‘because’. For example, “I’m grateful for the way my lover snuggles into me when we’re watching a movie because it makes me feel deeply loved and held.”
There’s no right or wrong here. Just play and get creative, and enjoy spending time appreciating your partner.
5. Go walking together
Getting outside first thing in the morning is a beautiful ritual to start your day. It clears the mind, wakes up the body, and can be a great mood booster.
Walking with your partner means you both share these benefits, and it also gives you space away from the home to connect and share your thoughts.
And what better way to start your day than the two of you walking hand in hand together through the world? Bliss.