Porn – yes or no?

Porn – yes or no?

It seems that porn is everywhere these days. Gone are all the restrictions and finding a Playboy magazine hidden in your parent’s bedroom was like finding gold. Porn is way more accessible and with the internet, there is no end to the amount of smut that you can find – some of great stuff, but a lot of it just junk and not worth watching.

As we keep getting the limits pushed back further and further, porn has taken over the airways and sex has come almost way to overdone and common place. Even watching music videos can be like watching porn, and it’s certainly not uncommon to see a lot of soft porn in mainstream and prime time TV shows.

But when it comes to watching porn with your partner to add some excitement into the mix should you do it or not? Chances are your partner has watched or watches porn now on a regular basis. On one hand a lot of porn really denigrates women and can be offensive. But on the other hand there really is some tasteful and high end porn that is just darn right sexy and can really bring on the heat.

But how do you broach the idea that you’d like to watch a flick with your man as a form of foreplay?

Well you can just come right out and ask him – how about a little Jenna Jameson or Celeste Star instead of Julie Roberts or Jodie Foster tonight? Watch his face as you name off a few flicks that you think he’d love to watch with you.

Or you can just be sneakier and have a flick loaded in the DVD player and just push play once you’re on the couch and the popcorn is made. He will be pleasantly surprised that is for sure!

Really it is totally up to you and your comfort level whether or not you want to play with porn or not. It can be a bit uncomfortable and you might not know where to look at first but it can also be kind of fun to try whatever craziness is going on the big screen too!

Whatever you end up doing, just have fun and go for it! There is no harm in trying something new and you may end up loving it or you may end up deciding that you have way better techniques than the orgasm-faking porn stars.

And don’t let their perfect, photo shopped bodies worry you either – he’s got you right there beside him for real and that beats the hell out of a fantasy girl any day! And the fact that you surprised with porn will drive him so completely wild he will be game to do anything you want – and doesn’t that sound like fun!

MS, University of Tartu
Sleep specialist

Using the acquired academic and professional experience, I advise patients with various complaints about mental health - depressed mood, nervousness, lack of energy and interest, sleep disorders, panic attacks, obsessive thoughts and anxieties, difficulty concentrating, and stress. In my free time, I love to paint and go on long walks on the beach. One of my latest obsessions is sudoku – a wonderful activity to calm an unease mind.

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