Sex Schedules: Unsexy Or Satisfying?

Sex Schedules: Unsexy Or Satisfying?

If you’re working a 9 5, trying to fetch the kids from school and extra curricular activities, and your idea of a good night is more along the lines of ‘a glass of wine and lots of sleep’ than ‘a glass of wine and plenty of sex’, then it’s time to take stock of your sex life.

Sex is an important part of your relationship, and your body’s health and well being. If sex is a chore and not a way to unwind, you’re doing it wrong. It’s all about enjoying your body and releasing endorphins; perfect for warming you up on a cold winter’s day and for relaxing your mind. If you’re finding it difficult to fit it on to your to do list then a sex schedule could be your new best friend.

While it might sound seriously unsexy and military like (‘9h00, time for sex! Sergeant, report for duty!’), a sex schedule can often mean the difference between make and break for most couples. Make time to take time and enjoy yourself as you rediscover your physical side. A successful sex schedule can help even the busiest individuals find time to enjoy sensual, satisfying sex.

So, what is a sex schedule? The clue is in the name: it’s about finding a time in your calendar where you’ll have at least an hour to yourself with your partner. The kids are out, you’re ordering take in, and you’ve got enough time for a quickie under the covers. Now, once you’ve found a time slot that works for both of you, PEN it in your diary. Don’t bother with pencil: when it comes to a sex schedule, you’ve got to stick to it. Things have come too far to take your sex appointments lightly.

Sex schedules can be seriously unsexy if you do them wrong. Just remember, you’re not a military instructor and you don’t have to project manage your sex life. It’s not about schedule appointments for on demand sex in all of the Kama Sutric positions you can imagine: it’s about making time for intimacy with your partner when time and energy are both running on empty.

Monika Wassermann is a doctor and a freelance writer based in the UK who lives with her cat Buddy. She writes across several verticals, including life, health, sex and love, relationships and fitness. Her three great loves are Victorian novels, Lebanese cuisine, and vintage markets. When she’s not writing, you can find her trying to meditate more, weightlifting, or wandering around in town.

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