Take it out of the Bedroom

Take it out of the Bedroom

It’s just easier. It’s simple, and doesn’t involve a lot of set up or prep time or ensuring all the windows and blinds are closed or that the kids are out of the house somewhere when you know they won’t come back. Having sex in the bedroom is just easier – that’s all there is to it.

Well having sex on a bed is better than trying to romp in the back seat of a car that is for sure. And it is convenient – the sex toys are handy. The lube is there. It’s comfortable.

But it can also get darn right boring.

That is the main problem with long term sexual relationships. They get stagnant and it is so easy to just slip into patterns and routines and before you know you haven’t made love anywhere except your bed for months or even years.

So if this is the case for you, then it really is time to shake things up a little bit. There is nothing too wild or crazy that you can’t try. It might take a bit of planning and maybe you might just end up with rug burn or scaring the crap out of your little old lady neighbor, but it’s nothing that won’t heal and it’s nothing that she hasn’t seen before.

First of all, look around your house and investigate a few prime locations that do not involve a bed. Of course the living room couch is an easy target. As is his most favorite lazy boy chair. But what about your kitchen counter or the pool house?

Backyards in the summer time with a sufficient fence make for a lovely lazy sunny afternoon of hedonistic fun and pleasuring. The washing machine downstairs in the musty old basement might not be your first choice, but just think of the memories every time later when you have to do laundry. Some good old flashbacks will make folding laundry less of a chore that is for sure.

Why not make it your personal mission to ‘do it’ in every single room in the house if you haven’t already? And why not plan an impromptu blow job in the front seat of his car when you’re in a long ferry line up or down an old country road one day.

Surprise him with a quickie when you’re visiting your mom or be a bit more risqué and find a not so public place and go down on him before you get caught.

There is nothing that wrong with having sex twice a week in your bed. But there is a lot to be said for changing things up and having a bit more fun in other places as well.

Julia Davis

Mental health expert
MS, University of Latvia

I am deeply convinced that each patient needs a unique, individual approach. Therefore, I use different psychotherapy methods in my work. During my studies, I discovered an in-depth interest in people as a whole and the belief in the inseparability of mind and body, and the importance of emotional health in physical health. In my spare time, I enjoy reading (a big fan of thrillers) and going on hikes.

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