Although online dating does have it perks it also has it’s downsides. The main downside is the hyper focus on physical appearance. This can lead to shallow choices being made based purely on how someone looks. Some people can fail at the first hurdle simply because they don’t look a certain way. Dating sites are starting to get around this by having profiles that don’t contain a profile picture meaning the person has to judge them based on their descriptions of themselves rather than their looks.

The second biggest problem is the increased opportunity for ghosting. It is much easier for a person you’ve met online to disappear, never to be heard from again, than a person you know in real life. This can lead to people feeling confused about what they did wrong and cause anxiety and even depression in some cases.

Another big problem with online dating is the disposable nature of it. The whole swipe right swipe left mentality creates a you don’t match my exact criteria mentality so I’m going to completely discount you. Whereas in real life we take the time to really get to know someone on a dating app people are looking for the first sign of incompatibility.

Ieva Kubiliute is a psychologist and a sex and relationships advisor and a freelance writer. She's also a consultant to several health and wellness brands. While Ieva specialises in covering wellness topics ranging from fitness and nutrition, to mental wellbeing, sex and relationships and health conditions, she has written across a diverse range of lifestyle topics, including beauty and travel. Career highlights so far include: luxury spa-hopping in Spain and joining an £18k-a-year London gym. Someone’s got to do it! When she’s not typing away at her desk—or interviewing experts and case studies, Ieva winds down with yoga, a good movie and great skincare (affordable of course, there’s little she doesn’t know about budget beauty). Things that bring her endless joy: digital detoxes, oat milk lattes and long country walks (and sometimes jogs).

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