TOP MONEY DISAGREEMENTS IN RELATIONSHIPS

TOP MONEY DISAGREEMENTS IN RELATIONSHIPS

1. Why is money such a common topic that triggers conflict in relationships?

It may be due to lack of proper education about financial teaming up with spouses and culturally, people rarely talk about money.

2. What are a few of the most common money-related disagreements that couples have? (Please list at least three and explain each). For each of the disagreements you listed, share a tip for how couples might get on the same page/reach a compromise.

Debt issues

If one partner accumulates debts, it is likely to affect the other one later. That is why any accumulated debts before the relationship and after should be talked about. As a couple, you should sit and discuss the debt amount you can handle and develop a repayment plan.

Financial inequality

A man in marriage may be uncomfortable if he earns less than his wife. Some women also may free themselves from responsibilities despite earning more. It may cause resentment within the marriage. It would help if partners practice financial transparency.

Money for leisure

Some activities may be exceeding a small expense. It may not be impulse buying, but recurring expenses that with time bring a significant difference to your budget. It is best for a common ground to be developed and maintained, especially if both parties had a different living standard before uniting.

3. If a couple really can’t stop fighting about money, what do you recommend?

I recommend joint accounts for spouses. Where there will be transparency in all withdrawals and transactions. I also urge couples to have spending budgets. Maybe your hobbies are different and require spending, talking about it can help reach an agreement. You can also utilize financial tracking apps.

Ieva Kubiliute

Ieva Kubiliute is a psychologist and a sex and relationships advisor and a freelance writer. She's also a consultant to several health and wellness brands. While Ieva specialises in covering wellness topics ranging from fitness and nutrition, to mental wellbeing, sex and relationships and health conditions, she has written across a diverse range of lifestyle topics, including beauty and travel. Career highlights so far include: luxury spa-hopping in Spain and joining an £18k-a-year London gym. Someone’s got to do it! When she’s not typing away at her desk—or interviewing experts and case studies, Ieva winds down with yoga, a good movie and great skincare (affordable of course, there’s little she doesn’t know about budget beauty). Things that bring her endless joy: digital detoxes, oat milk lattes and long country walks (and sometimes jogs).

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