Want To Up Your Intimacy? Read To Each Other!

Want To Up Your Intimacy? Read To Each Other!

It sounds pretty nuts and kind of childish I know, but retiring to bed 30 or so minutes early for a bedtime story can really increase the intimacy between a couple, especially if your lives are such that you don’t get much quality time with each other during the day. As a massive fan of the bedtime story I have decided to share my personal experiences with you guys so you can try it and see if it works for you!

For the past 18 months I have been reading a chapter or two to my fiancé before we close our eyes and snuggle down for some well-earned sleep each night. Well, I say each night, but sometimes we don’t manage our 30-45 minutes of escapism as life tends to get in the way. Anyway, if we aren’t going out or too exhausted I will pick up our book and start reading to Adam until sleep claims us.

Right now we are working our way through the Harry Potter series (currently on Goblet of Fire)! As a self-confessed Harry Potter FREAK I simply cannot entertain the idea of marrying a man who has not read the books, and with no indication from him that he would do so by our wedding day, I decided that the only solution was for me to read to him. I also really enjoy reading out loud, and I guess you could say I enjoy the sound of my own voice…well, that’s what Adam says anyway.

But our bedtime stories are not limited to children’s literature; I have also started reading prose of a much saucier nature. After having my ears bashed about the many pleasures of Fifty Shades of Grey by my girlfriends, I finally gave in and started ready the book that has the country whipped into a frenzy. But rather than reading it discretely to myself I had been reading it out loud to my fiancé. Now, I have to say that Fifty Shades of Grey has had a very different effect on us than the Harry Potter series. Rather than being lulled into restful and enchanted sleep full of wizards, dragons, castles and magic we are finding it hard to switch off at all! In fact, reading the saucy parts of Fifty Shades has had a rather pleasant effect on our sex life…it’s increased the number of times which relaxing bedtime reading has turned into steamy and satisfying bedtime sex!

So, if you fancy increasing your intimacy (or the amount of steamy bedroom sessions with your partner!), then try reading a bedtime story. Perhaps suggest that you read one night and they read the next so that you both enjoy the calming effects of being read to. Just make sure you go to bed super early if you decide to give erotica a try!

Ksenia Sobchak, BA (Hons) Fashion Communication: Fashion Journalism, Central Saint Martins

Ksenia Sobchak enjoys blogging on fashion, style, lifestyle, love and CBD areas. Prior to becoming a blogger, Ksenia worked for a renowned fashion brand. Ksenia is a contributing author to leading fashion, lifestyle and CBD magazines and blogs. You can bump into Ksenia at her favourite cafe in South Kensington where she has written most blogs. Ksenia is a staunch advocate of CBD and its benefits to people. Ksenia is also on the panel of CBD reviewers at CBD Life Mag and Chill Hempire. Her favourite form of CBD are CBD gummies and CBD tinctures. Ksenia is a regular contributor at leading fashion, lifestyle as well as CBD magazines and blogs.

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