(what it is, precautions, tips, etc.).

As the name suggests, wax play in BDSM involves partners sprinkling hot candle wax on one another for pleasure.


  • Stick to kink play candles with a lower burning temperature to protect you, your partner, and the play space.
  • Avoid pouring hot wax on open cuts, ears, and face among other sensitive areas.
  • Have a first-aid kit nearby.
  • Have a cold wet piece of cloth in your reach and a plenty of room temperature water.


Create a safe word

Wax play involves real fire that can burn the body. Therefore, partners in play should establish a safe word to stay out of danger while making the scene enjoyable. Come up with a word and give its implication when called out, for example, use fruits or colors to mean stop.

Secure the environment

For a successful play, anything flammable should stay away from fire. Things including tissues, hairy items, or wool should be out of wax play rooms. A fire extinguisher may also be important.

Make body cleanup easier

Wax can be difficult to get out of a hairy body. Therefore, it is best to shave ahead of the game to ease cleanup after the pleasurable moment.

Anastasia Filipenko

Anastasia Filipenko is a health and wellness psychologist, dermatolist and a freelance writer. She frequently covers beauty and skincare, food trends and nutrition, health and fitness and relationships. When she's not trying out new skincare products, you'll find her taking a cycling class, doing yoga, reading in the park, or trying a new recipe.

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