Why Can Dirty Talk Feel So Awkward for Many People?

Most of us don’t like to talk about sex, whether with our best friends or partners. Now, when it comes to dirty talk, we lack what to say. This can make us feel awkward.

Can Dirty Talk Benefit Your Relationship and/or Sex Life?

Dirty talk can benefit your relationship in many ways. If done correctly, dirty talk can help you learn things that turn you on, deepen the connection with your partner, boost creativity in your bedroom, allowing you to try new things and elevate your confidence in the bedroom.

How Can You Know If Your Partner Is into Dirty Talk?

To know whether your partner is into dirty talk, ask them. Just ask, “Hey, do you like dirty talk?”

Is It Worth Finding Out Ahead of Time If There Are Certain Words They’re Not Comfortable with During Dirty Talk?

Finding out ahead of time words that can arouse your partner and words that can trigger them can make your dirty talk more fun and exciting.

Top Tips for Dirty Talk

Practice Beforehand

If the thought of being naked and talking dirty is scary, I advise you to practice beforehand and outside your bedroom. Dirty talks are more fun if both of you are comfortable.

Don’t Go Too Deep

Communicate how you feel as you maintain eye contact, hold hands, kiss or cuddle. Stay authentic and avoid too many explicit words.

Use a Lower and Softer Tone

Dirty talk is not just about what comes from your mouth. How you say the words also determine whether your partner will be aroused.

Julia Davis

Mental health expert
MS, University of Latvia

I am deeply convinced that each patient needs a unique, individual approach. Therefore, I use different psychotherapy methods in my work. During my studies, I discovered an in-depth interest in people as a whole and the belief in the inseparability of mind and body, and the importance of emotional health in physical health. In my spare time, I enjoy reading (a big fan of thrillers) and going on hikes.

Anastasia Filipenko is a health and wellness psychologist, dermatolist and a freelance writer. She frequently covers beauty and skincare, food trends and nutrition, health and fitness and relationships. When she's not trying out new skincare products, you'll find her taking a cycling class, doing yoga, reading in the park, or trying a new recipe.

Ieva Kubiliute is a psychologist and a sex and relationships advisor and a freelance writer. She's also a consultant to several health and wellness brands. While Ieva specialises in covering wellness topics ranging from fitness and nutrition, to mental wellbeing, sex and relationships and health conditions, she has written across a diverse range of lifestyle topics, including beauty and travel. Career highlights so far include: luxury spa-hopping in Spain and joining an £18k-a-year London gym. Someone’s got to do it! When she’s not typing away at her desk—or interviewing experts and case studies, Ieva winds down with yoga, a good movie and great skincare (affordable of course, there’s little she doesn’t know about budget beauty). Things that bring her endless joy: digital detoxes, oat milk lattes and long country walks (and sometimes jogs).

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