Why Some Men Fear Sex Toys

Why Some Men Fear Sex Toys

So why is it that some men feel scared and threatened by female penis shaped sex toys? Is it the shape, the size, the unnatural colours…or a combination of all of these things which make even the most confident man shrivel at the sight of them?

Perhaps men feel that another penis-shaped toy which also vibrates and is modelled on a rather well-endowed specimen is your way of saying that his penis isn’t big enough, brightly coloured enough or glittery enough to satisfy you. Plus many sex toys also vibrate…which just isn’t something a real penis can do with any great success. Or perhaps they feel that they should be the only ones to give you pleasure (other than yourself of course!), so bringing a toy into your play time provides him with a bit of unwanted competition.

We all know and appreciate that sex is about love, romance and connecting with another person on the most intimate level possible, and having him give you pleasure is vitally important. But sex is also about fun, experimentation and having a giggle! The best thing you can do if your man doesn’t love your sex toys is to explain this to him. Tell him that sex toys are not a replacement, but an accessory and that you can both get tons of enjoyment out of them.

It may help the situation if you include a vagina shaped toy in your experimentation, that way you are both on a level playing field! Take a look at this Fleshlight Pink Vagina Original which is a male masturbator designed to look and feel like a real vagina. Use it on him and encourage him to use the vibrator or dildo on you.

Another great remedy for this is the purchase a Cloneboy DIY Vibrator Set! This kit allows you to create an exact replica of your man’s penis which will also vibrate. He may be more willing to accept this toy as it’s modelled on his member. If you think the issue may be more to do with control than the shape of the toy then take a look at this Ultra Remote Control Egg and let him have a remote! Problem solved!

If you would prefer to remove penis shaped toys from the situation altogether go for this Forefinger Delight which will fit on his or your fingers and will provide plenty of vibration to give you a buzzing good time!

Barbara Santini

Barbara is a freelance writer and a sex and relationships adviser at Dimepiece LA and Peaches and Screams. Barbara is involved in various educational initiatives aimed at making sex advice more accessible to everyone and breaking stigmas around sex across various cultural communities. In her spare time, Barbara enjoys trawling through vintage markets in Brick Lane, exploring new places, painting and reading.

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