Kunegebe elikhulu kuma-orgasm phakathi kwabesifazane nabesilisa. Iningi labesilisa lithi liba ne-orgasm esondele ku-98% lapho bezibandakanya ocansini nothile, kuyilapho iningi labesifazane lithi kufanele babeke isikhathi esithile ngemuva kwamaseshini abo ocansi ukuze baqede. Lokhu kungqubuzana kubangela igebe le-orgasm, kodwa leli gebe lingavalwa kanjani? Nawa amaphuzu avelele okugcwalisa lesi sikhala futhi ubhekane nomqondo we-orgasm.
Yini Ebangela Igebe Le-Orgasm?
Amanye Amadoda Acabanga Ukuthi I-Orgasm Kufanele Igxile Kuwo
Bobabili ubulili bakholelwa ukuthi ucansi lugxile enjabulweni yendoda nokuthi iseshini kufanele igoqwe lapho owesilisa ekhipha isidoda. Lesi sifaniso sikhombisa ukuthi ubumnandi bowesifazane buthathwa kalula kanjani. Abanye abantu besilisa nabo bakholelwa ukuthi abesifazane bangakwazi ukuzijabulisa njengabesilisa ngesikhathi socansi, kodwa uma kuziwa endabeni ye-orgasm, kufanele babeke izidingo zendoda ngaphambi kwezabo. Ucansi akudingekile ukuba luphele lapho bobabili abathintekayo befinyelela umvuthwandaba, kodwa imibhangqwana eminingi yayibike umuzwa wokwaneliseka lapho isikhathi siphela.
Le nkolelo ayinazo izidingo zabesifazane. Abesifazane kufanele bazibeke kuqala uma kuziwa ekufuneni ubumnandi. Kufanele futhi kube yisibopho esihlangene ukugcizelela ukubaluleka kokwaneliseka ngokocansi kwabesifazane njengomuntu ngamunye nasemphakathini. U-Buerkle (2009) wathi umphakathi kufanele ugcizelele i-clitoris nokuthi isebenza kanjani njenge-pivot ye-orgasm yabesifazane. Uma abantu besazi inhloso ye-clitoris kanye nobuhle bayo, abesifazane bazozama ukugxila ekwaneliseni kwabo.
Ukushoda Kolwazi Lwendlela Yokufinyelela I-Orgasm
Ngokuvumelana ne Hensel et al. (2021), Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi cishe u-70% wabesifazane be-orgasm kusukela ekukhuthazeni kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane kanye nokungena kwepipi. Sibonga ulwazi oluhlala luvela lwezempilo yokuzala yabesifazane. Ukugqugquzelwa kwe-Clitoral kukhulisa injabulo, kuvumela umuntu wesifazane ukuthi abe ne-orgasm engasebenzeki futhi ehlaba ingqondo aze afike ezingeni angeke akwazi ukulifinyelela ekungeneni. Ungafaka ama-vibrator namanye amathoyizi ocansi ukuze ukhuthaze i-clitoral, abantu abaningi abangazi ngayo. Ukuntula ulwazi mayelana nendlela yokuqhubela owesifazane emhlabeni we-O kubonakala ngamaphesenti aphansi abesifazane abashaya indlwabu.
Abesifazane kufanele bahole indlela yokufuna lokho okubagculisa kakhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili bomlomo noma ubulili bokungena, qonda umzimba wakho ngokuseduze futhi wazi ukuthi yini ekusebenzelayo nalokho okungakusebenzeli. Thenga amathoyizi ocansi agxile kulokho ozwa sengathi azokusiza ukuthi ufinyelele ku-orgasm ngokushesha. Funda amabhulogi namawebhusayithi agxile ekuzijabuliseni ukuze uzinikeze umbono ongemuhle wokuthi ungaqala kuphi. Ungabuka futhi i-porn, ikakhulukazi i-porn yokuziphatha, lapho abesifazane bephathwa ngenhlonipho futhi njengabalingana nendoda. Wena nomlingani wakho ningabeka eceleni isikhathi lapho nobabili nizama ukuthola ukuthi yini ekusebenzelayo mayelana namathoyizi ocansi kanye nezikhundla zocansi.
Abesifazane Abazethembi Ngocansi
Vance (1984) waphawula ukuthi abesifazane abaningi bayakwazi ukuzithokozisa ngokocansi, kodwa bayesaba ukuba nobulili babo. Abazizwa beqiniseka ngokwanele ukwazisa abalingani babo. Ukungabi nokuvuleleka ngokocansi kushiya abesifazane benganelisekile ngemuva kweseshini eshisayo. Bayakwazi okujabulisayo kubo, kodwa bakhetha ukungakhulumi ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi umlingani wabo uzobabheka ngendlela ehlukile. Umphakathi kanye nabezindaba yibo abanecala ngalokhu, njengoba iningi lamafilimu namabhulogi asakaza ivangeli lokugodlwa. Ngokuvumelana ne I-Almazan & Bain (2015). Ihule lomphakathi lihlaza abesifazane abanolaka embhedeni, libabiza njengehlazo lobufazi. Abantu babambe lo mcabango, ngakho-ke abesifazane bazohlala bekhononda ngokuthi baphila impilo embi yocansi ekupheleni kosuku.
Abesifazane kumele bagqashule kule mikhuba. Kufanele baqale ukuthatha isondo baliqondise kunoma iyiphi indlela lapho lizwakala lilikhulu. Cela ukukhuthazwa i-clitoral uma uthanda. Khuluma nomlingani wakho futhi umtshele ukuthi isitayela se-doggy akuyona inkomishi yakho yetiye nokuthi ukhetha isithunywa sevangeli esikhundleni. Khuluma ngesibindi futhi ulahle ukwethuka umphakathi okulindele kubantu besifazane. Hlola umzimba wakho, futhi ngezinye izikhathi lapho uwedwa noma nophathina wakho, zithinte futhi uvumele imizwa ilawule umzimba wakho, futhi uma ukukhuluma ngalokho okufunayo kuzophula i-ego yendoda yakho, makube njalo.
Ukulala Nezimfundamakhwela
Iningi labesifazane alinalo ulwazi lokuthi lingazijabulisa kanjani. Ngakho-ke, kuphephile ukusho ukuthi amadoda asekupheleni kwalesi sikali solwazi. Kodwa-ke, ngeke siwasole amadoda ngoba umphakathi ulindele ukuthi abeke injabulo yawo kuqala, futhi emadodeni amaningi, yindlela ukuphila kwawo kobulili okusebenza ngayo. Abanye besifazane baqamba ama-orgasms ngesikhathi socansi ukuze bajabulise i-ego yendoda. Kuyaxaka kwabesifazane ngoba bavaleleke emishadweni engenazinkanuko.
Ozakwethu abayizimfundamakhwela bagcwele yonke indawo kodwa okwenza umehluko uma bezimisele ngokufunda. Amadoda kufanele amukele i-porn futhi abe nobusuku lapho wena nomlingani wakho ninikela isikhathi sabo ekubukeni lawa mafilimu avusa inkanuko. Ungakubeki enhliziyweni uma umlingani wakho ekunikeza impendulo engalungile mayelana nomuntu wakho embhedeni. Hlala phansi ubabuze ukuthi ungenza kanjani kangcono ngokuzayo. Zama ngokusemandleni akho ukuba nomqondo ovulekile novumayo. Ungenza nomzamo womuntu siqu wokwazi ukuthi yini ejabulisa umlingani wakho, uhlole umzimba wakhe futhi ubone lapho ezwa khona ukuzwela okukhulu.
Iphuzu Eliyinhloko
Indlela eya ku-orgasm kufanele kube uhambo lomuntu siqu. Kodwa-ke, abesifazane abaningi babeka izifiso zomlingani ngaphambi kwezabo, okuholela ekwandeni kwegebe phakathi kwama-orgasms abesilisa nabesifazane. Abesilisa nabo yibo okumele basolwe ngegebe le-orgasm ngoba bagxila kakhulu kulokho okuzwa kahle kubo, bakhohlwe ukuthi ngesikhathi socansi, kuthatha ababili ku-tango. Ngokusekelwe kulokho umphakathi okulindele kwabesifazane, iningi ligcina seliyeka ukuzithokozisa ukuze ligweme ukushiseka ngokweqile embhedeni. Kungase kuthathe isikhathi eside ngomphakathi ukuba wamukele ukuthi injabulo yabesifazane ilingana neyabesilisa, kodwa kuze kube yileso sikhathi, futhi njengoba kushiwo esihlokweni esingenhla, abesifazane kufanele bathathe isihlalo esingaphambili futhi baqondise injabulo yabo kunoma iyiphi indlela abayifisayo. Khuluma ngalokho okuyengayo.
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