Okungafanele Ukwenze Embhedeni

Umbhali we-blogger engimlandelayo usanda kuhlekisa: 'Ucansi lufana ne-pizza; noma kukubi kusekuhle impela.” Ngivumelana nephuzu. Sonke siyizilwane ingane, futhi lapho lawo makhemikhali emvelo ekhahlela sonke siyakwazi ukukwenza njengoba enza esiteshini se-Discovery. Lokho okushiwoyo, ukungatholi okuningi kwe-pizza yakho oyintandokazi ngendlela obulindele ngayo kubi, futhi cishe akufanele udle lapho futhi. Into efanayo iya ocansini. Ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuba isifaniso se-pizza sibe sibi kakhulu, ake sibuyele kulokho okubalulekile: izinto okungafanele uzenze embhedeni.

Okokuqala, ungadli inkanyezi. Uthini wena? Yilapho ovele ulale khona futhi uvumele zonke izenzo zenzeke kuwe. Uziphathisa okwenkanyezi. Abesifazane bavame ukuba yizigebengu eziyinhloko uma kuziwa ekudobeni izinkanyezi, futhi ngingaqinisekisa ukuthi ukwenza isithukuthezi noma ukungenzi lutho kuyindlela eqinisekile yomlilo yokuvula indoda yakho. Ubumnandi be-Frisky budinga ukuhambisana, ngakho-ke sebenza!

Kulungile, ukuze ungenzi lutho ngokuphelele; ufuna ukujabulisa isithandwa sakho kuze kube seqophelweni eliphezulu futhi uqiniseke ukuthi konke ukunyakaza kwenu kuyanisebenzela nobabili ku-O enkulu. Kuhle lokho, vele uqiniseke ukuthi awulona uhlobo lwesithandwa esibuza imibuzo eminingi kakhulu. Inani eleqile lokuthi 'ingabe lokho kuzwakala kukuhle?" futhi 'ingabe lokhu kulungile?" ingawubulala ngempela umoya. Abafana abaningi bavame ukwenza lokhu, futhi ngenkathi sikwazisa ukukhathazeka, uma sibubula ngokujabula, ungasihloniphi. Kusobala ukuthi siyayijabulela noma yini oyenzayo.

Futhi okufanayo kuya emahloni aqeda amandla. Sikhuluma ngabantu abesaba ukuvumela ukububula kuphume ezindebeni zabo noma ukuxhumana emehlweni phakathi ne-coitus, noma abaphikelela ukukwenza ebumnyameni noma ngesikhumba ngasinye sifihlwe ngaphansi kwekhava. Bheka, ngiyakuthola. Uveza ukusondelana kwakho komunye nomunye futhi lokho kungase kwesabe, kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi, uma bekulalisa bacabanga ukuthi ukufanele ukukubuka, futhi nabo bafuna ukukuzwa! Ukuba namahloni ngokweqile kuwukucisha futhi kungenza isithandwa sakho sicabange ukuthi benza okuthile okungalungile. Ngakho-ke ungesabi ukuthola i-freaky kancane. I-pizza engenalutho ngaphandle kukashizi iyabhora phela.

Kulungile ngakho-ke sibuyela esifanisweni se-pizza. Ngakho-ke, njengoba ubungeke utshele uweta wakho ukuthi ukudla okudlayo kusezingeni eliphezulu kakhulu, akufanele uqhathanise umlingani wakho nezithandwa zangaphambili. Lokhu kungase kubonakale kusobala kodwa ungamangala ukuthi bangaki abantu abazophuma nemigqa efana nokuthi 'i-ex yami yayijwayele ukwenza le nto emangalisayo ngolimi lwayo”.Yize isithandwa sakho samanje singase sizimisele ukukuzwisa umnyakazo owuthandayo, 'uzokwazi zisuka nje ukuthi uyabahlulela nge-ex yakho, futhi lokho akukuhle. Noma ngabe ukuhlangana komgwaqo kwenza abantu baseHawaii abangcono, upelepele wenkukhu endaweni yakho yamanje ungaba mnandi.

Lokhu konakala ngokushesha kube yikholomu yokudla ngakho ngizokunqamulela. Unganeliseki ngocansi olulungile. Ukuba nocansi olumangalisayo kusho ukusebenza, ukuqonda futhi uzimisele ukulahleka okwamanje. Yenza konke lokho, futhi awukwazi ukungahambi kahle!

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Eminyakeni edlule, uTatyana usebenze njenge-blogger yezocansi kanye nomeluleki wobudlelwano. Uke wavela kumamagazini afana neCosmopolitan, Teen Vogue. Vice, Tatler, Vanity Fair, nabanye abaningi. Kusukela ngo-2016, uTatyana ugxile ku-sexology, waya ezifundweni ezihlukahlukene zokuqeqesha, wabamba iqhaza ezingqungqutheleni zamazwe ngamazwe kanye nezingqungquthela. “Ngifisa sengathi abantu bangalungisa izindaba zocansi kusenesikhathi! Khohlwa amahloni, ubandlululo futhi ukhululeke ukubonana nodokotela wezocansi ukuze uthole usizo noma iseluleko!” U-Tanya uyakujabulela ukuphishekela ikhono lakhe lokusungula ngokusebenzisa ukumodela, ubuciko be-graffiti, isayensi yezinkanyezi, nobuchwepheshe.

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