If strap on play is new to yourself and your lover, letting your lover know that you would like her to strap-it-on can be scary.
When is the right time and how can you tell your woman that you want her to penetrate you? If you have never discussed it before, how can you know if she will embrace the idea or be repelled?
The longer you have been in a relationship, the harder it can be to introduce a new sexual activity; depending, of course, on how open and exploratory your relationship is.
Discussing the Strap On
There may never be the perfect moment, so choose a time when both of you feel connected…not if she is tired and stressed from work, or as you are heading out the door.
Here are some possible intro’s;
Bringing home a catalogue, watching a movie featuring strap-on’s or reading her an erotic short with a strap-on storyline, can be a gentle introduction and can be followed up by a shopping trip to a Peaches and Screams store to meet your future strap-on.
Starting to explore anal pleasure using buttplugs, fingers and anal vibrators can be a natural lead-in to strap-on sex.
Talk dirty to her when you are having sex and seed the idea of giving yourself to her…build the fantasy that can later become your reality
When your first discuss your desire to be on the receiving end of a strap-on, stick to positive language and own it. For example, “I would love to surrender myself to you, and you would look unbelievably sexy in a strap-on.” And “I want to see how hot you look in a strap-on and want you to bend me over and take me.”
Further Advice to Introduce the Strap On
During your discussion about strap-on sex, ask her how she feels about the idea and what she is thinking, you may need to give her a few days to think about it and arrange another time to discuss it. She may struggle with the many misconceptions such as that you must be gay or perverted, she may be uncertain about taking the lead in sex, or be concerned about the poo factor.
Let her know what you feel about her and how you want to explore and build on your sexual relationship with her
While it may be scary or stressful bringing up the topic of your desire to receive penetration from your lover in a strap-on, it could also be the start of a whole new world of sexual desire and intimacy and a risk worth taking.
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MS, University of Latvia
I am deeply convinced that each patient needs a unique, individual approach. Therefore, I use different psychotherapy methods in my work. During my studies, I discovered an in-depth interest in people as a whole and the belief in the inseparability of mind and body, and the importance of emotional health in physical health. In my spare time, I enjoy reading (a big fan of thrillers) and going on hikes.
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