Lovebombing — what it is, how it works, the signs of it, and why it can be dangerous.
Lovebombing applies in a romantic relationship whereby one partner gives extreme affection and attention, especially at the start of the union but ends up being manipulative. It also can happen after a couple breaks up or fights. The abuser inflicts violence, then brings you closer with actions to show how much they love you. Through various tactics to win you back, you may give a second chance and that is how they will keep you in the relationship. Their behavior will rarely change and that cycle continues.
Signs
- If your partner always asks of your whereabouts and gets enraged if you hesitate to answer.
- If they are narcissistic, such as showing signs of egocentrism.
- If they compliment and criticize you at the same time.
- If they have excessive interest in your hobby, career, or family.
Why it is dangerous
Lovebombing can harm your mental health as it is a type of emotional abuse to the victim. The love bomber may later gain control in the relationship and would have increased their ego. They are likely to lose interest and leave the relationship or stay, but gaslight and throw insults to the partner. As a result, one may develop a low self-esteem for feeling devalued.
