DATING AS A SINGLE PARENT

DATING AS A SINGLE PARENT

I recommend the following tips;

Understand that kids mostly come first

If you want to date as a single parent, please accept that a potential partner’s children or child comes first. Most parents commit to their children, and to make things neutral for you, embracing this fact may be helpful to avoid negativity. It is best to ensure any move taken does not interfere with the children’s thoughts or make them insecure by their parent’s dating thing. Expect children who are grown-ups to participate in helping their parent make some decisions pertaining their life, including bringing in a new member through the dating. In short, make it easier for the child or children to feel safe and comfortable around you.

Avoid secrets

I always tell my clients to be honest and open at the beginning of their dates. Tell your partner about everything you expect, including their commitment and let them tell you theirs. Honesty increases vulnerability; a good factor that can make you two connect more even as you begin a different relationship journey.

Let the parent handle their kids; matters discipline

If your new date does not seek your support of their children, such as, in administering discipline, please limit yourself. If you dislike their actions or manners, it is better if you engage the parent to see what can be done. However, if things do not go as you expect, then it may be a red flag to your stay, especially if you think of getting your kids with them.

Charlotte Cremers
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MS, University of Tartu
Sleep specialist

Using the acquired academic and professional experience, I advise patients with various complaints about mental health - depressed mood, nervousness, lack of energy and interest, sleep disorders, panic attacks, obsessive thoughts and anxieties, difficulty concentrating, and stress. In my free time, I love to paint and go on long walks on the beach. One of my latest obsessions is sudoku – a wonderful activity to calm an unease mind.

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