How to Turn your Shy Guy onto Sex Toys

Many people assume then when it comes to sex toys and accessories boys are much more experienced and open minded; however these days this is less likely to be the case. The average modern woman between the age of 18 and 50 will own more than one sex toy which she uses whether she’s currently in a relationship or not. Some women even report a sex toy addiction where they simply could not live without their overflowing toy box!

So, what if you are in a situation where you’re a little concerned about revealing your toys to a new lover? Perhaps your new man is a shy guy and you’re worried about scaring him off if he reacts badly to the purple glittery penis shaped vibrator you’ve been hiding in your bedside table? Well don’t despair, just follow my simple steps for smoothly introducing a shy guy to your toys.
Keep your toys well hidden for a first few weeks don’t be tempted to reach into your toy box at the first opportunity as they sends the wrong signals. Instead keep all of your attention on him so that later on he will feel secure in the knowledge that you don’t need toys to have a good time in bed with him. Feel free to grab some condoms and lube out of the box though!

When you do introduce him to your toy box for the first time stick to the less imposing toys such as small clit vibrators, vibrating cock rings and finger vibrators. He probably won’t want to see your 9 inch specimens just yet!

If he seems a little reluctant make sure you use plenty of reassuring language and let him know that this foray into the world of sex toys can be on his terms. Some men don’t like to think of their partners as having had previous lovers, and for some the appearance of a well stocked toy box is a reminder that their partner had a functioning sex life prior to the current relationship. If this happens to you then suggest you buy some new toys which will be yours as a couple. Take a look at the Temptations Direct website for a huge range of fantastic toys!

Finally, allay any fears about sex toys and health concerns. It’s so important to keep your toys spotlessly clean so that you can enjoy them without any risk of spreading bacteria. Invest in a good quality toy cleaner and use it every time your toy comes out of the toy box. This Foaming Toy Cleaner will do the job perfectly! If you run out of cleaner then use a mild soap in warm water, and be careful not to submerge anything electrical. Remember that some rubber toys will absorb bacteria, so be sure to use a condom every time you use them for anal play.

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Ieva Kubiliute

Psychologist and a Sex and Relationships Advisor at shopgiejo.com

Ieva Kubiliute is a psychologist and a sex and relationships advisor and a freelance writer. She's also a consultant to several health and wellness brands. While Ieva specialises in covering wellness topics ranging from fitness and nutrition, to mental wellbeing, sex and relationships and health conditions, she has written across a diverse range of lifestyle topics, including beauty and travel. Career highlights so far include: luxury spa-hopping in Spain and joining an £18k-a-year London gym. Someone’s got to do it! When she’s not typing away at her desk—or interviewing experts and case studies, Ieva winds down with yoga, a good movie and great skincare (affordable of course, there’s little she doesn’t know about budget beauty). Things that bring her endless joy: digital detoxes, oat milk lattes and long country walks (and sometimes jogs).

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