When might it be helpful for couples to schedule sex?

As a therapist, scheduling sex can be effective and beneficial for couples who have been in a long-term relationship and have less time for lovemaking. Partners with busy work schedules and other life issues that consume most of their time can also schedule sex when they notice a decrease in their intimate affairs.

Are there situations in which couples should avoid scheduling sex?

People with performance anxiety should keep off scheduling sex as it can trigger the condition and worsen their sexual experiences.

What if one person wants a schedule and the other person doesn’t?

I advise you to communicate with your partner the need and importance of scheduling sex. You can start by trying to schedule tasks or other activities in your relationship. Emphasize the need to be closer with them often, how you enjoy getting intimate with them, and the need to have sexual affairs consistently.

What’s the most important thing to keep in mind when trying to create a sex schedule

When scheduling sex, always remember that it’s a strategy for strengthening your relationship; hence you should create an effective timetable for both of you. Ensure that the scheduled time is on your free days and the time you have a high sex drive. List your expectations, the games to indulge in, and how frequent.

Ieva Kubiliute

Ieva Kubiliute is a psychologist and a sex and relationships advisor and a freelance writer. She's also a consultant to several health and wellness brands. While Ieva specialises in covering wellness topics ranging from fitness and nutrition, to mental wellbeing, sex and relationships and health conditions, she has written across a diverse range of lifestyle topics, including beauty and travel. Career highlights so far include: luxury spa-hopping in Spain and joining an £18k-a-year London gym. Someone’s got to do it! When she’s not typing away at her desk—or interviewing experts and case studies, Ieva winds down with yoga, a good movie and great skincare (affordable of course, there’s little she doesn’t know about budget beauty). Things that bring her endless joy: digital detoxes, oat milk lattes and long country walks (and sometimes jogs).

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