To help yourself heal from a breakup, the first thing you need to do is start making yourself a priority. Focus on self-care and spend time doing the things that truly set your soul on fire. By making more time for yourself it helps you to grow and learn. You start to discover more about yourself and how you tick. You start to learn what you like and don’t like.
The more you know and understand yourself the better your future relationships will be. You’ll be in a better place to give to others too. You cannot give from an empty cup so fill yours first. It’s also important to remember that if you do then find yourself in a new relationship to not let your self-care routine slip.
How long a person takes to mourn a relationship will depend on the individual involved. We’re all different and react differently to break ups. There is no set time frame for getting over it. The length of time it takes will depend on the persons relationship style. There are four main attachment styles: Anxious (also called preoccupied), Avoidant (also called dismissive), disorganized and secure.
A person with an anxious attachment style generally falls in love very easily and doesn’t trust their partner. A person with this type of attachment style will generally take longer than others to get over a relationship breakup.
A person with an avoidant attachment style generally doesn’t fall in love and is far more likely to take part in casual sex. A person with this type of attachment style will easily get over a relationship breakup as they were never fully invested in the relationship anyway.
A person with disorganized attachment style generally feels like they’re unworthy of love and are more likely to engage in casual sex or may even have a sex addiction. A person with this attachment style will struggle to get over a relationship breakup easily as they already feel unworthy of love and a breakup further cement this thought pattern for them.
A person with a secure attachment style often experiences fulfilling sexual encounters. They seek long-term relationships and rarely engage in casual sex. A person with this attachment style will take a while to get over a relationship but not as long as someone who is anxious or avoidant. They are able to move on because they know their worth and realize that they will find someone else eventually.
In order to get over any kind of emotional thoughts, feelings or behaviors we have to acknowledge them. We have to feel the feeling in its entirety and then we can move on from it. We cannot fix anything by ignoring it. By taking the time to fully understand a situation you are then in a better place to fix it.
Sleep specialist
Using the acquired academic and professional experience, I advise patients with various complaints about mental health - depressed mood, nervousness, lack of energy and interest, sleep disorders, panic attacks, obsessive thoughts and anxieties, difficulty concentrating, and stress. In my free time, I love to paint and go on long walks on the beach. One of my latest obsessions is sudoku – a wonderful activity to calm an unease mind.
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