1. What are your thoughts on Her Dating?

I think it is a good way of dating exploration. It helps understand more about relationship dynamics and varied partners. An individual also gets the chance to know more about their bodies; desires, and needs. Also, one gets to learn their likes and dislikes.

 2. Would you recommend it to your clients?

Definitely, yes. I highly support this type of dating to reduce expectations on gender roles and stereotypes. Furthermore, my intention for recommending it is to encourage individuals who are still hiding their identity to realize their value in life.

3. What are some alternative ways to meet someone?

I recommend the tips below;

Face timing

I always tell my clients to start with video calling to confirm their date’s appearance before meeting in physical. You may wait for the in-person date, only to realize that you are not into this person. Therefore, a video-meeting in advance may be helpful.

Find you most favorable apps

Go for apps with your gender preference. If you are looking to have a relationship, I recommend Bumble or Chappy. Hinge or Tinder will be meaningful if you want more users with a similar interest. You can use Feeld if threesomes and polyamorous are your needs.

4. Any tips for someone dating in the LGBTQ community?

  • If you love sex, attend sex parties; you can check online to notice any parties in your local area.
  • If you want to add a third to your relationship, ensure your shared life is fulfilling; perhaps start the conversation by disclosing your fantasies and allow them to share theirs.
Barbara Santini

Barbara is a freelance writer and a sex and relationships adviser at Dimepiece LA and Peaches and Screams. Barbara is involved in various educational initiatives aimed at making sex advice more accessible to everyone and breaking stigmas around sex across various cultural communities. In her spare time, Barbara enjoys trawling through vintage markets in Brick Lane, exploring new places, painting and reading.

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