How We Can Unlearn Sexual Shame Around Self-Pleasure

How We Can Unlearn Sexual Shame Around Self-Pleasure

Understand How Sexual Shame Manifests in Your Everyday Life

The first step in unlearning sexual shame around self-pleasure is understanding how it manifests in your everyday life. You can achieve this by writing parts of yourself (think: mindsets, behaviours or fantasies) that are judgment-free and those dominated by sexual shame.

Know The Person Behind Your “Shame Voice”

Your shame voice can sound like your parent or guardian, ex, priest and, of course, you. If the shame voice sounds like the voice of other people in your life, ask yourself if their opinion about your sex life matters. If theshame voice sounds like you, identify the source of the information or values causing your sexual shame.

Read Sexual Education Resources

While you might think masturbation is bad, studies show it provides numerous health benefits. I advise you to read multiple sexual education resources to fill your mind with facts about masturbation.

Elena Ognivtseva
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