– Please describe the different communication styles in a relationship so that the reader can determine which they fall into
The styles include;
Aggressive
Aggressive communicators are pretty demanding and defensive. They tend to talk more than listen, and may be hostile. During conversations, they keep a sharp eye contact, and may talk with a harsh tone. In a relationship, they may yell and throw words without a concern of how you feel. Such people are hard to deal with, especially because most individuals misunderstand them.
Passive
Passive communicators are the kinds who accommodate other people more than themselves. They tend to ignore their desires and emotions but ensure to go along with others’ suggestions or opinions. Conflict is not their vibe. They dislike confrontations, making people think they are easy-goers but no, it is their fear for disapproval from others. Such people make partners who never fight and cannot take control in a relationship. It implies that even dates and other plans are determined by the other partner. But what if both partners are passive communicators? Well, it is a problem because most issues will go unsolved and the piling may cause resentment.
Passive- aggressive
Have you met someone who rarely airs their thoughts but easily gets irritated, angry, or frustrated? That is probably a passive-aggressive communicator. They act this way to get rid of their dislikes, which are not communicated. They will indirectly attack by criticism or act the opposite way. For instance, they can offer to help with something, but complain when helping. They are the type who give silent treatment in relationships. They possibly make their partners undergo emotional abuse but may not know.
Assertive
Assertive communicators are cool. They are good at listening, and care about their partners’ concerns. Arguments do not work for them. They prefer turn-taking or healthy discussions, especially when a matter is out of hand. In short, their communication is balanced; they can speak, share, listen, and care.
– What does it mean if you and your partner have different communication styles? Any tips?
Different communication styles can easily fester misunderstandings and conflicts in a relationship. I always tell my clients to learn all the styles and to effectively mingle or interact with others who have different styles. It can help work your way through changing your style, more so becoming an assertive communicator. I also recommend the following tips;
- Always pose before reacting to other people’s opinions
- Listen to your partner and validate their feelings.
- Consult a relationship therapist in matters are getting beyond your control.
– Why is it important to understand the different communication styles in a relationship? What can we learn?
Knowing the different communication styles can help relate better with others even when your styles differ. It also helps construct strong relationships with others. Moreover, it can help achieve your life desires without conflict with others because you can work with anyone.
