– What is orgasmic meditation?

Orgasmic meditation or OM is an outstanding practice combining clitoral stimulation for pleasure and mindfulness. It can be done solo or with a partner, whereby one touches or rubs the clit while the other receives stimulation- always a female.

 – What are the potential benefits of orgasmic meditation?

While OM does not necessarily have to end with an orgasm, it comes with numerous health benefits, including:

  • Limited stress
  • Reduced anxiety
  • More happiness
  • Increased confidence
  • More bonding in relationships

Meditation helps;

  • Promote blood circulation.
  • Increased libido
  • Improved sleep quality
  • Less joint and muscle tension.

For me, practicing OM helped understand the working of women’s bodies and mind. It also promoted my connection with women, which improves my confidence.

– How can people try orgasmic meditation? Can you please offer a few actionable steps (in bullet list format)?

  • Create a favorable environment with a set mood, including a mat, cushion, or blanket for both partners to relax on.
  • Ensure all necessities like a lube, timer, or towel are accessible.
  • Set the timer- around 15 minutes.
  • Get in a good position for the performance.
  • The stroking person should apply lube on the fingers and seek consent from the receiver before starting with the upper left quadrant.
  • Towards 12-13 minutes, the stroker should change to downward stroking motion.
  • When the timer rings, the stroker should apply pressure on the entire genital area to the point when both partner feel it in their bodies.
  • The stroker helps do the aftercare by wiping the genitals.

 – Is there anything else about orgasmic meditation that you feel is important to note in this story?

You do not have to worry if you lack a partner because it can be performed solo. I also urge more people to try the practice to gain more neurological and psychological benefits as proved by studies.

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Ieva Kubiliute

Ieva Kubiliute is a psychologist and a sex and relationships advisor and a freelance writer. She's also a consultant to several health and wellness brands. While Ieva specialises in covering wellness topics ranging from fitness and nutrition, to mental wellbeing, sex and relationships and health conditions, she has written across a diverse range of lifestyle topics, including beauty and travel. Career highlights so far include: luxury spa-hopping in Spain and joining an £18k-a-year London gym. Someone’s got to do it! When she’s not typing away at her desk—or interviewing experts and case studies, Ieva winds down with yoga, a good movie and great skincare (affordable of course, there’s little she doesn’t know about budget beauty). Things that bring her endless joy: digital detoxes, oat milk lattes and long country walks (and sometimes jogs).

Anastasia Filipenko is a health and wellness psychologist, dermatolist and a freelance writer. She frequently covers beauty and skincare, food trends and nutrition, health and fitness and relationships. When she's not trying out new skincare products, you'll find her taking a cycling class, doing yoga, reading in the park, or trying a new recipe.

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