What are the things you should do, what are the things you absolutely shouldn’t do?

The Dos


I hear people say that practice makes perfect. Yes, I recommend rehearsal to help develop enough confidence for taking good control over your nerves. It will prepare you for well delivery with great ability to address a crowd and maintain proper eye contact.

Be yourself

If it is your wedding, feel proud and take advantage to shine. Perhaps you were invited, meaning the newlyweds valued your presence, and when giving your speech, please take the chance to shine on their behalf.

Make it short and sweet

I challenge you to shorten your words, letting the crowd want to hear more. A speech going for nothing beyond five minutes is a great deal.



By drinking, I mean alcohol. A little alcohol before speechifying may not be bad. But drinking to an extent of getting tipsy is unacceptable. It may only bring instances of shamefulness that are regrettable.

Google the speech

Asking uncle Google for words to flesh your speech is a poor idea. I recommend seeking a writer’s help if you are not sure of your words because they will ask you for the points you want to communicate, making it easier to grasp.

What to do if you have to give a spontaneous speech.

Speechifying in a wedding can be tricky, especially if you lack enough confidence to address a crowd. It is also a problem if there was no prior preparation. I always tell my clients to rehearse by using the mirror and planning their speech in order to avoid mixing up points and explanations. If you lack words, you can find a writer and offer details of what you want to address, and they will provide better guidelines to perfect your speech. Moreover, be sensitive with your tonal variation and body language, including eye contact to help people notice who you are.

Julia Davis

Mental health expert
MS, University of Latvia

I am deeply convinced that each patient needs a unique, individual approach. Therefore, I use different psychotherapy methods in my work. During my studies, I discovered an in-depth interest in people as a whole and the belief in the inseparability of mind and body, and the importance of emotional health in physical health. In my spare time, I enjoy reading (a big fan of thrillers) and going on hikes.

Nutritionist, Cornell University, MS

I believe that nutrition science is a wonderful helper both for the preventive improvement of health and adjunctive therapy in treatment. My goal is to help people improve their health and well-being without torturing themselves with unnecessary dietary restrictions. I am a supporter of a healthy lifestyle – I play sports, cycle, and swim in the lake all year round. With my work, I have been featured in Vice, Country Living, Harrods magazine, Daily Telegraph, Grazia, Women's Health, and other media outlets.

Barbara is a freelance writer and a sex and relationships adviser at Dimepiece LA and Peaches and Screams. Barbara is involved in various educational initiatives aimed at making sex advice more accessible to everyone and breaking stigmas around sex across various cultural communities. In her spare time, Barbara enjoys trawling through vintage markets in Brick Lane, exploring new places, painting and reading.

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