What Do You Need to Do to Prepare for Anal Sex

What Do You Need to Do to Prepare for Anal Sex?

 Know the Type of Anal Sex That Works for You Best

Forms of anal sex include penis in the anus, toy in the anus, fingering (inserting fingers in the anus), and analingus. Knowing what works for you best beforehand will guide you on how to prepare for deep anal orgasms.

Shop for Lube or Personal Lubricants

Lube or personal lubricants are the necessary way of achieving safe and more pleasurable anal sex. Normally, we have silicone-based lube, water-based lube, and oil-based oil. Which lubes are perfect for anal exploration? Keep reading!

Get Safe Anal Toys

The safety of anal toys heavily depends on the design and materials used in their construction. As a sex expert, I usually advise my clients, especially anal sex beginners to go for small silicone, glass, or metal sex toys. These materials are nonporous and hypoallergic. Besides the material, you may also want anal toys with flared bases. This allows you to control penetration and avoid cases of toys getting lost in your butt.

Buy Condoms or Dental Dams

Did you know you can get sexually transmitted infections (STIs) anally? Besides protecting against STIs, condoms reduce the risk of vaginal infections, if there are vaginal penetrations too.

Clean the Butt

Poop can ruin the butt play. For this reason, you may want to clean around the anus with water and a piece of washcloth or do an enema.

How Can You Have a Conversation with Your Partner to Make Sure You’re Both Comfortable and On the Same Page?

Use “We” instead of “I”. For example, instead of saying “I would like to explore anal with you” say “I feel we should include anal play in our sexual routine”. If they are interested, go shopping for anal sex toys together. This will relax your partner’s mind, encouraging better anal sex for both of you.

What Types of Lube Are Best?

If you plan to use silicone sex toys or latex condoms, go for a water-based lube. Silicone-based lube can harm the toy and your safety in general. On the other hand, oil-based lube can cause latex condoms to break, making you more susceptible to STIs.

How Does Lube Reduce Risk of Injury Whether You’re Using Sex Toys or Human Parts?

Personal lubricant reduces unnecessary friction, which can damage the tissue in your butt.

Tips for communicating with your partner before, during, and after Anal Play

Talk About Anal Play Beforehand

Talking about anal play ahead of time allows you to learn each other’s needs and fears.

Create a Safe Word

If one or both of you are new to anal play, you may need a safe word. This is the best way to communicate during anal play.

Ask Your Partner How They Feel After Sex

If you ask me, proper etiquette after anal sex is staying in bed to find out how your partner feels. Injuries are more likely to happen while having anal sex.

Tips To Make Anal Sex Pain-Free

  • Use a lot of lube
  • Start with small anal sex toys
  • Do not skip foreplay
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Ieva Kubiliute is a psychologist and a sex and relationships advisor and a freelance writer. She's also a consultant to several health and wellness brands. While Ieva specialises in covering wellness topics ranging from fitness and nutrition, to mental wellbeing, sex and relationships and health conditions, she has written across a diverse range of lifestyle topics, including beauty and travel. Career highlights so far include: luxury spa-hopping in Spain and joining an £18k-a-year London gym. Someone’s got to do it! When she’s not typing away at her desk—or interviewing experts and case studies, Ieva winds down with yoga, a good movie and great skincare (affordable of course, there’s little she doesn’t know about budget beauty). Things that bring her endless joy: digital detoxes, oat milk lattes and long country walks (and sometimes jogs).

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